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 I know its been a while since I posted here. I wanted to discuss something entirely different now: incels. 

Why incels and most importantly: what are incels? 

What are incels?

incels are people who consider themselves to be involuntary celebate through society. While it typically can adress to all sexes, the last decade or so, saw a rise in misogyny within the incels community. Misogyny that came from the fact that some thought that women owed them sex and viewed women as mere objects, not as persons. 

Most incels are innocent. I would even bet that most know not to hate women or men. But a small group has become more and more vocal about their hatred towards women that they became the poster boys for incel community. Its that small group that has become more and more dangerous. Especially in the states where they revere certain individuals as heroes for killing women. I know of three cases where an incel carried out a terrorist attack against women and men who can get women. all because they feel that women have rejected them. 

Others do other things like in this one documentary about the world of incels, showed a really disturbed individual calling himself catfish men, where he goes on tinder to catfish women and than “expose” them. He considers himself to be a “hero” of the incel community, while in reality he is nothing more than a sad joke. If he used the energy he puts into this, into something productive, he might get a date. 

The thing is, that small group i was talking about, they put themselves down with their ideology. 

With their hatred for women and their willingless to carry out attacks of any kind (Roger, catfish man,…) and to glorify violence against women, they make it harder for themselves to lead a healthy life or even date someone. 

I’m not going into any further, but truthfully, i find most of the stuff they came up rather disturbing.

One thing is clear though, these incels need guidance, therapy. Not just because of their violent tendencies, but because most incels tend to suffer from a psychological condition that limits their chances with dating. They also need to learn that dating, sex isn’t what life is all about. Its a part of it, yes, but not the most important part. If you spend your whole life hating women, men, or groups of people, can you honestly say that you are a good person, who treated people good? 

At the end of your life, aren’t those the ones with the most regret, hating people for ridiculnous reasons?